Saturday, March 13, 2010

OK, I'm Over It

Yeah, so by Thursday I was over the sadness of dealing with a new twist to the adoption process.  I spent Wednesday night wallowing in my sadness, thinking about going to Ethiopia, meeting our baby, spending time with him/her, bonding, and then LEAVING!  OH the heartache!  But it won't be forever, just a few weeks, and then we'll be back.  And we're not the only ones this affects - EVERYBODY will be dealing with the same issues.  So, it's not just me, I can deal with it.

I've also been focusing on the positives of this new development.  Here are some thoughts from my "thought closet":
  • We GET to go to Ethiopia twice!  I realize this may not be a positive for a lot of people, but I've been getting really excited about going over there and experiencing everything I've been reading about.  And now we get to do it twice!  I LOVE that!
  • We have plenty of time to save up for traveling twice.  There are A LOT of people who are much closer to getting a referral than we are, and will have to scramble at the last minute to come up with the money to travel a) sooner than they expected; and b) a second time.  And, not only do we have plenty of time to save, but we're blessed with two incomes that make saving not as painful as it might be if we were only doing this on one income.
  • We GET to meet our baby earlier than expected.  Of course, I haven't forgotten that we won't be able to bring him/her home with us as soon as we meet, but we'll now have extra time together than we wouldn't have had previously .
  • We'll be able to get our shopping out of the way the first trip, and not have to lug home all of our purchases AND our baby gear in one trip.
  • We'll probably get to stay in a nice hotel (instead of a guest house) the first trip, since we won't have the baby with us.  I know, it's a bit shallow, but I'm trying to focus on ALL of the positives, no matter how small.
  • We'll get to learn all about making the trip to Addis and back without a baby, so we'll hopefully be wiser and more prepared the second time around WITH the baby.
I think as we get further into the process, we'll discover there are even more positives about this change than what I've initially identified, but these are the things I'm focusing on right now.  Any time anything changes, my intial response is to be upset.  But I've learned to have my pity party, get it out of the way, and move on.  I have a choice to be happy or miserable, and I definitely don't want to be miserable.  A wise man once said, "There's nothing so certain as change."  He was right, so I choose to roll with it... and get over it.

Happy Saturday!


  1. Rebecca~
    Just wanted to let you know how much I love reading your blog and keeping up with your incredible journey!!! God Bless you guys and the precious baby who will be a part of your family.....can't wait to see what the future holds!
    Mindy Thames

  2. I am so proud of you for accentuating the positives. Your baby is going to have such a wonderful mommy (and daddy for that matter)!